Your cat was 9 when you adopted her so she’s obviously felt grief, and been abandoned..either by a human’s death or been given up, etc. of course she’s going to be anxious, and very scared when left. She can’t feel secure. Leave the tv on or a radio on, spray pheromone odour and leave toys with catnip around your place, before you leave . Put the special toys and treats away on your return.

Hello Florence, thank you for the comment. I would certainly recommend taking your cat to the veterinarian—you’ll want to know if she’s recovered from pneumonia and what might be ailing her. You can also get some advice from the veterinary moderators in the All About Cats forums.

Keri, can you keep your cat inside when you’re going to the shop? What about using a harness, leash, and backpack? There are ways to help to keep her safe and decrease the chances that she’ll get hit while following you.

Take her with you on the weekends when you visit your family. You can transport her in a little carrier and then get one of the super big dog crates that fold up and have a bed, toys, litter box, etc. inside and leave the jumbo crate at your family’s for when you visit and that way she has a chance to get comfortable over there and not run away or hide somewhere, but also has space of her own so she doesn’t feel trapped. They have crates for like 100+ pound dogs on chewy that are always on sale and not very expensive at all and you could just ship it to your family’s house along with a bed, litter box, etc. and that way you and your adorable cat can be together and she won’t be so sad all weekend.

My cat did that the last 6 yrs of her life
She wanted to sleep on my arm with her face 2 inches from mine
She past away on 2020 she was almost 19 years old

When I don’t think my cat is eating enough I give her cat/kitten milk if she refuses it I get out a medicines dropper and feed her 2 or 3 droppers